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There’s something really important that you need to know.

mommyeverafter — Tue, 13 May 2014 15:29:41 +0000

As I said yesterday, over on 511, I am quite different than my marathon runner sister. I do not work out, I have never belonged to a gym and I ran almost 3 miles with Twin ONCE on the Boardwalk and that is the only thing I have ever done.
I was good at sit and reach in middle school, I can do the worm and I am freakishly strong and undefeated in same-sex arm wrestling, but besides that, I am not in shape.
But now, when I leave the room, the baby cries. And it is kind of sweet, because he knows me and loves me and doesn’t want me to go. But I don’t know if I’ve mentioned this on here…I have the biggest baby ever. Have I forgotten to say that? Oh. Well, I do. He is literally off the charts, over the 100th percentile. So this means that any time I need to get up to get a drink of water, or snag a peep, or pee, I have to carry around 22 pounds of solid chunk.
Also, while he is a rock star sleeper in his crib at night, he doesn’t nap in there (lord knows why), so I walk him almost every day for his naps.
And because I am lazy and the single jogging stroller is at my parents’ house, I usually walk him in his infant seat int he snap n’ go, which means I basically have to push all of the weight.
Today, I walked up hill and I envisioned myself in a strong-man competition, pushing bales of hay up a mountain. I really did.
And I believe I actually broke a sweat.
So the really important thing that you need to know is that I
am now
an athlete.
The end.

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Scenes from The Bean/Happy Birthday, Twin!

mommyeverafter — Wed, 11 Apr 2012 18:00:25 +0000

So, I’ve been keeping a bit of a secret from you.
Actually, it’s kind of big…
(…at least in this land….the Land of Mom, that is.)
2 weeks ago, I spent my first weekend away WOB (without babe).
It’s taken me this long to share because
a) I had to find the right words
b) I had to process all that it meant to me
c) I have been terribly homesick for the weekend, and I was not yet ready to tap into all of the emotions that came along with it
d) I had many missed baby hugs to make up for
So, let’s start with a little question:
You have a baby, you spend every moment with her (save a few 8-10 hour stretches) for 2 weeks shy of 2 years. It’s time to leave her for the very first time. Where do you go?
I know what you’re thinking.
Duh! So obvious! (In the words of my girl, A,) Obviduh! You go see Twin!
So, after months of planning, (with a few moments of agonizing sprinkled in there) and a six hour train ride,
the husband and I arrived in Boston,
and, more specifically, into the arms of Twinny and Go Go.
It was perfection.
It was so us;
Wandering through Harvard Square, arm-in-arm;
Sharing bites of Grape Nuts Ice Cream and Anadama Bread
and sips of sparkling sake and gourmet hot cocoa;
Lingering in the Poetry and Children’s Books sections of the book store, reading about Haiku and Miro and Eric Carle;
Midnight dance parties and morning ebelskivers;
Our weekend meant so much to us. To all of us.
Our weekend made me feel light
and made me feel happy
and made me feel proud.
But, there’s only so much I can say in words.
So, here they are; Some Scenes from The Bean (and by scenes, I mean iPhone pictures of the food we ate…because that’s what you peeps really care about, right?!):

When I say that our weekend was delicious, I am not just referring to all of the sushi and onion rings and burgers and treats we indulged in during our stay. They were all great, yes, but nothing compared to the pure bliss of 3 solid days with my Twin.
And while it was hard for me to be apart from my little girl
(I missed a whole day of her life,
as that Saturday was the very first and only day of her existence that I missed seeing her wake up in the morning. It was weird, I tell you.)
it was also important.
Important for us (relationship us)
important for us (friendship us)
important for us (Twinship us)
and important for me.
Being a mother (for me) has meant giving all of myself to my little mini. But, in doing that,
in living the life of my dreams,
I lost some of my independent self along the way.
From the moment I became pregnant, my life was lo longer my own. Everything about me began to revolve around my daughter.
And so, our trip to Boston was rejuvenating. It was re-me-venating.
It was just what we needed.
And on that note, I would like to take this opportunity to thank the woman who was not only the Hostess with the Mostest,
but who, in the past 7 years of our Twinship,
has taught me what it means to be a sister, a friend and a golden, genuine, top knotch human being.
Happy Birthday, to my girl, way up Nahth.
I hope that you know how much better you’ve made my life
just by being in it.
I love you and am honored today, and always, to call you my twin.
Happy birthday, Happy Everything,
Happiness Always.

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#febphotoaday/7

mommyeverafter — Tue, 07 Feb 2012 15:09:11 +0000

7. Button

Courtesy of La Twin

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HAPPY…

mommyeverafter — Mon, 02 Jan 2012 03:03:04 +0000

New Year!
I hope that two thousand and twelve brings you peace and love. And dance parties and belly laughs. And glitter. And baby kisses. And more love.
And Happy Anniversary, to me.
To us.
For, on this night, seven years ago,
I was on a plane,
flying across the ocean,
to a far away land,
and to a new place, both literally and figuratively,
after which I would never, ever, evereverever be the same.
For in that place,
I fell in love
with a one of a kind City;
in that place,
I fell in love with a
One of a kind girl.
Twin,
you mean more to me now than you meant to me then,
(and you meant a whole gosh-darn heck of a lot to me then)
and I do not know what my life would be without you.
You have taught me,
you have changed me,
you have accepted me,
you have held me,
you have loved me.
Twin, I love you more than you loved those chocolate churros, or that perfect bite of tapas at cal pep, or the amazing meusli at Mercadona, or the gummies at Bon Jon, or the puppies in the puppy store, or the smell of the Rocafort metro stop…
or the big red couches.
Happy Anniversary, Barca. Happy Anniversary, Twin. Happy New year.
Happiness Always.
(And P.S. because it must be said. Because, well, it just must: “Later that day I got to thinking about relationships. There are those that open you up to something new and exotic, those that are old and familiar, those that bring up lots of questions, those that bring you somewhere unexpected, those that bring you far from where you started, and those that bring you back. But the most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself. And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that’s just fabulous.”-Carrie Bradshaw, Sex and the City, Series Finale. Twin, seriously…I love you more.)

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My sister, my self.

mommyeverafter — Mon, 21 Nov 2011 03:10:24 +0000

This weekend, my Twin came to town.
!!!!!!!!!
I got to spend an entire, blissful, loverly 48 hours with the girl who makes me feel more like me,
more like the very best version of me,
than anyone else in the world.
Having Twin and her most wonderful guy, whom we shall call Go Go, in our home,
in our bed,
as we spent the early morning hours all snuggled up in my bedroom, talking, giggling, reminiscing, joking and just being,
made me feel so good; so whole.
Having twin in town meant that I got to watch my daughter fall in love with the same girl whom I fell in love with seven years ago.
It meant that I got to marvel, as she carried my daughter around the park, sang songs to her, pushed her on the swings, held her hand as they walked down the street
and taught her where her knee is.
Having twin in town meant that I got to see my daughter follow Go Go around the house, shouting his name, begging for him to pick her up, asking him to read to her, to hold her, to hug her and just be hers.
Having twin in town meant eating all of our meals family style.
It meant being a family.
Having twin in town meant having an expert to help me pick out my outfits,
a partner for middle of the night dance parties
and a hand to hold, every single time I needed it.
Having a twin in town meant music, and belly laughs and crunching leaves and cupcakes and more kisses than I can count.
Having a twin in town meant everything.
I miss her already.

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This Weekend!

mommyeverafter — Thu, 05 Aug 2010 20:27:57 +0000

This weekend is sure to be exciting.
1) The baby is turning 16 weeks.
What?
That’s not a milestone b-day for you?
Well, don’t you remember how it is in our family?
I’m thinking “My Super Sweet 16 (weeks) Princess Style Pinata Par-Tay”
That just rolls right off the tongue, no?
2) TWIN IS A-COMIN’!!!!!!!!!
Yes, my sister from another mister and her better half (otherwise known as puppy Ziggy’s G-d-father) will be in residence, starting tomorrow!!!!!
More reason to celebrate!!!!!
3) This weekend marks the one year anniversary of my first positive pregnancy test. Not that I believed in that second, faint line…but still. It was real.
More to that story, to come….

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